It is normal to feel anxious from time to time however, when it becomes a disorder, living with anxiety can be incredibly draining. You tend to worry and lot and become fearful of the future.
Some days can feel like an uphill and downhill tug of war as your mind often goes through a vicious cycle of emotional highs and lows.
As the cycle reaches peak levels, you feel like giving up, but that’s exactly when miracles can unfold! Right there, in that moment of despair you catch a glimpse of light. There is hope. Somehow, you manage to safely override the negative thoughts and feelings in that present moment.
12 years ago, I survived a painful near death experience. I will never forget the words of a caring nurse in the intensive care unit. She gave this advice after I suffered a significant pulmonary embolism (major clots to both lungs, following an abdominal operation while I was 12-weeks pregnant). “Remain calm to give yourself and your baby the best chance of life.” Looking back, I believe she was God sent. I did exactly what she said and we both survived. (more about this in a later blog).
3 years ago, I developed an undiagnosed condition, which abruptly introduced an anxiety disorder along with worry, fear and lots of pain.
Somehow, this ordeal was much harder to deal with than my near death episode. How is that?
Physical wounds are easier to pinpoint and treat. By contrast, emotional wounds are rooted deep in the past. When these episodes resurface, they expose negative thoughts, feelings, words, attitudes and behaviours.
As my undiagnosed condition developed further, I became frustrated, agitated, sensitive to the environment and people around me. Driving became a real problem, especially when driving through heavy traffic, rain and snow. I developed insomnia, which robbed me of sleep and so I became ‘snappy’ and tired most days. I developed chronic muscle aches; pain, fatigue, brain fog and my memory became weak.
3 years on, thank God, I am now in a much brighter place. Much of my symptoms have gone and others are gradually fading away.
How have I managed to move from being overwhelmed by such dark periods to living a joy-filled life?
You may have heard the saying, “success leaves clues” from renowned motivational speakers such as Les Brown and Tony Robbins . I can tell you that it’s true, and not only that, it’s more important right now than ever before that you pay close attention to this powerful success strategy.
There is one thing successful people have in common. They understand that everything is born from a thought and then a choice.
I choose to live a soulful life! Living a soulful life is taking control over negative thoughts and behaviours. It comes from a strong emotional defiant frame of mind, which provides healing by setting my mind on beautiful things from above.
The idea of fixing our minds on positive things did not originate from today’s modern motivational speakers. This truth is found in scripture. Here are 3 ageless truths’ I’ve memorized and claim every day:
‘So keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honorable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. And fasten your thoughts on every glorious work of God, praising him always.’
'Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed;
Save me, and I shall be saved,
For You are my praise.'
‘Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.’
Within a matter of days turned into weeks, later into months and years, my mindset has been transformed. I choose to focus on joy rather than pain, my blessings rather than my distress, to be courageous rather than fearful.
Be more intentional about preparing your mind at the start of every day. This is a disciplined morning routine. When I don’t do this, my days are never as bright!
Prioritise on self-care. I make conscious decisions to eat more healthily, and I take practical steps to avoid and eliminate negative things and people in my life.
YES, you can do this too one step at a time. Here’s how:
With our human strength, this is hard to do and maintain, but something amazing happens when we allow God’s supernatural power to work within us. You begin to see great things unfold around you.
You might be suffering from an anxiety disorder, worried about your current situation or fearful about the future. The bottom line is, “God does not want you to suffer!” Let me say this again, “God does not want you to suffer!” He has a great purpose and plan for your life.
Regardless of who you are, your past or wherever you are in your current journey in life, refuse to allow negative episodes in your past to shape the rest of your life. You can start living a soulful life to make the difference. Every choice you make, makes you!
Recognising your negative thoughts is the first step to saying no to negativity. Although stopping negative thinking takes time and effort, by choosing to fix your mind on beautiful things , it will serve you well for overcoming anxiety, worry and fear.
Let us show you how!
Say Aloud: I choose to fix my mind on beautiful things above
I choose to focus on joy rather than pain, my blessings rather than my distress, to be courageous rather than fearful. #soulful_change
I'm Resilient Bev, a Personal Transformation Coach for people reinventing their lives after 40 for fulfillment and freedom. When I'm not running my business, I love spending time with my 2 adorable children and husband, developing my coaching skills and giving back. My purpose is to help you refocus and create the freedom and life you deserve. Read more about my story here.
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